Present Giving in Autistic/NT Relationships: Nail It Every Time!

Let’s talk about autism gifts for adults and teens with autism and neurotypical gifts for adults who don’t have autism. Or better yet, let's don't assume anything based on whether someone is autistic or neurotypical, and let’s talk about gift giving in neurodiverse relationships. Because, gift giving is super

Autism and Accountability: How to Know When to Hold an Autistic Child Accountable

Autism and Accountability It can be tough to determine those things for which it is okay to hold someone accountable. It can be especially difficult in relationships between autists and neuortypical folks. Parents ask whether/when, they can hold their autistic child accountable. In response to these questions, I created this post and

Hugs and Autism: I Want to Help U Get Better

Hugs and Autism. Just the two words together seem overwhelming. Hugging presents such a difficult topic for many families in which someone is autistic. While some researchers are starting to try to explain it, it remains a tough subject. I know that when many women envision starting a family, they

A Guide to Girls and Autism

As a “girl” with autism, the subject of girls and autism is dear to my heart. In spite of the questions I get about girls and autism, until now, I hadn’t prepared an adequate response. I simply told people what it was like for me and gave a really general answer. So, I

What Girls and Women with Autism Want to Hear and Why

"You are enough. Just you." So simple, right? We sometimes say it, but do we really mean that? Because it doesn't count if you don't mean it. In the context of girls and women with autism we lose sight of this seemingly simple principle with a regularity that is stunning. In fact, it happens so easily

Are the Meltdowns of Someone Who Has Autism Really Abnormal?

I think, probably controversially, that meltdowns are not abnormal reactions to what autistic people are experiencing. I believe that some experiences of those with autism are so outside the expectations or experiences of those around them who do not have autism as to be considered minor or unimportant. As a result, we deem the behavior that makes

The Counterintuitive Nature of Autism

Counterintuitive - my word to describe dealing with autism. Counterintuitive. I want to open this discussion with a super simple example. When my autistic daughter was an infant, her muscle tone (or hypotonia) was so low that she struggled to eat. (Lots of kiddos with autism also have these types of issues. It is not necessarily a

Autism, Chocolate, and a Fire-Breathing Dragon

We all have that family story, the one that new friends hear as a part of their friendship orientation package, and this is my story. We have also probably all heard stories or seen the struggles of individuals, family or friends struggling with the meltdowns of someone with autism. Well, this story is that for me as

The Seemingly Contradictory Journey of Girls with Autism

Though some think autism does not exist in girls, you travel that truth every day. Appearing to alternate between silent and overwhelmed, your demeanor camouflages your fascination with the landscape. Though you do not express your joys and struggles, you experience them as you do the highest of hills and the lowest of valleys.